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Screw your African culture

I am so pissed. I am pissed beyond belief. I am so angry that I could throw up on my laptop right now. I am so angry I feel sick.

I checked my facebook news feed this morning and found this idiotic status:

‎9reasons Why Some African Ladies End Up Single For Life .

1. Many African ladies will end up singles for life because of media exposure- it is so disheartening how a lady will glue her eyes on a mobile phone from morning to night, only to raise it up to focus on television to watch another celebrity entertainment channel. Tell me, what else will dominate this lady’s mindset aside how to live a fake celebrity life being promoted on television channels?

This is so stupid. What does watching alot of tv have to do with being single for life? I take it married people don’t watch tv? And single guys? Do they watch alot of tv too? Apparently , if a woman spends time on her phone, and watching celebrities, the only result is her trying to live like a fake celebrity and dying single. Perfect logic.
2. Many African ladies now dislike cooking and home chores just because they had been totally brainwashed by movies showcasing men playing the role of women in a family, and due to excessive exposure to modern media that promotes gender-equality­ in a destructive way that’s aimed at destroying the unique African family setting that made our previous African marriages everlasting and envious to the westerns. Now, with this attitude, how do you expect a African man to desire to marry when he knows he is only buying more headache and trouble than helper for himself?
These are only two of the the 9 imbecilic “reasons” why African women are single. I got so so so annoyed I refused to read further for the sake of my own sanity. Where do I even start?
The only brainwashing that has happened here, is that of women being told they should have no other goals in life but getting married and becoming a housewife. Being single is a disease and woe to any woman afflicted with such!
Finding a man is salvation! You have made it in life! You might not have a job or income or an ounce of happiness but you have a husband! Many women would die to be in your place! *pat on the back*. Now that you are victorious over other unmarried wretched females, you get your reward! You get to clean and cook for your dear husband!Oh and don’t forget his laundry! Feed him, clothe him, Oh you are truly blessed amongst women because you have a husband to clean up after! Aren’t you happy? Why aren’t you happy? This is everything a woman dreams about. Why would you want to be anything else? You will get used to it.
God forbid if any female even hints about gender equality. “We will fix her” is what they say.  “She better stop with that western thinking that women are humans too!This is Africa!how dare she implies that the brilliant male species could be equaled to women?”
A woman can not have ambition beyond the kitchen. Because that is “African” culture. A woman that advocates for womens’ rights can only do so to a certain extent( she can promote basic girl education, how else will a wife write shopping lists and calculate the grocery budget?) .If she goes too far by suggesting roles in a family can be decided by other reasons apart from gender,then she is a demon that needs deliverance ( I say this from personal experience).
I am so sick of this. I am disgusted that this is what fools have decided is African culture. There is no African culture. It does not exist. There are customs and “rules” that were set up by men who saw women as lesser humans that were born to be dominated.
I have always loved being African. I am not African because I was born on this continent, I am African because Africa is in my blood. Many times I have been hurt and disappointed by what I have heard from African minds. This time, I am downright ashamed.

One thought on “Screw your African culture

  1. its disgusting the levels of *i dont even have an adjective for it* that spew out of the male mouth sometimes. it makes me sad really, that so many men think this way and feel justified enough to even offer it up as relationship advice. yuck.


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